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Tribute To Mothers

With Mother’s Day right around the corner, my mind’s been on my mom lately. I won’t be visiting her, buying gifts, or sending a card because she died 15 years ago. Instead, I’ll be honoring her memory with a remembrance project, sharing family stories, and saying a prayer.

I’ve also updated my lens, How To Celebrate Mother’s Day When Your Mom is Deceased.

It’s one of my favorite lenses because I wrote it from my personal experiences. I wanted to write a tribute to my mom and help others who have lost their moms. Visitors have left wonderful stories about their moms and ideas on honoring their mom on Mother’s Day.

Of course, I’m a mom too, so the holiday will be spent with my teen son and sharing stories about a grandma he never met, but who would’ve loved him to pieces. Read more about the reason I hope this Mother’s Day tribute lens will make my mom proud.

What makes your holiday special? Last night, my best friend and I talked about activities that make our holiday seem magical.  We shared our definite favorites, like giving to others. As part of a Dora Christmas Carol contest, Twittermoms and Nickelodeon recently asked bloggers about their favorite holiday activities with their kids. What a wonderful topic! My husband, son, and I have a few traditional, holiday activities. Here’s a look at our family’s favorites.

1. Decorating the house — my grandmother used to set up her Christmas decorations the day after Thanksgiving. While I’m not always ready on that day, we start getting things out of the closets and storage. It’s fun as we plan where the tree will go and have a “mini-Christmas” just opening the boxes and admiring the decorations.
2. Looking at neighborhood lights — we enjoy looking at all the Christmas lights and know the best, neighborhood displays. We love spotting the new, creative, or funny lights. Our son likes most any kind that moves. The last couple of years, we’ve visited one neighborhood where they collect donations for Hospice in exchange for donating their huge Christmas light displays for the public.
3. Making cookies and fudge — another holiday activity that was passed down from my mom and grandma. My son and I have re-created their recipes every year. My husband helps me with the fudge to make sure it turns out the right flavor and consistency. Sometimes, the cookie decorations change (especially as our son grows older), but this tradition is a must-do every holiday.
4. Watching Christmas movies — we watch some favorites, like Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer, Frosty the Snowman, The Grinch Who Stole Christmas (the animated version and then Jim Carrey’s version), and Charlie Brown. I watched all those as a kid, too. My husband and son have added to our list with Spongebob’s First Christmas, The Christmas Story, and Christmas Vacation.
5. Giving to Someone Less Fortunate — we donate to the Salvation Army bell ringers, to our son’s school, and often to a new place. The importance of doing this is not in the amount we give. We feel grateful for what we have and feel there’s a responsibility to help others. Though it’s nice to do throughout the year, the holidays amplify the feelings of gratitude and giving.

What do you do with your kids? Do you have favorite holiday activities? I’d love to hear what makes your holiday special.

Check out Twittermoms and Nickelodeon for their wonderful topic starter — it’s bringing out holiday spirit.

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Since I’m a freelance writer and Squidoo enthusiast, I thought an appropriate blog name would be Squidwriting. To those who haven’t read my Squidtop blog, you’ll find information on Squidoo, writing, parenting, and social networking. It’ll be a place to share my lenses, as well as interesting lenses from other lensmasters.

I’m thrilled to be on SquidLog. With professionalism and pizazz, they entered the web with their online magazine. Now, SquidLog is expanding with the creation of a social network. Squidoo lensmasters are generous, and I’m humbled to be a part of such a dynamic and caring group of people.

I just read about an interesting Twittermoms contest, based on the latest movie release “Away We Go”. The movie is about a couple expecting their first child, and they’re traveling the U.S. in search of the perfect home.  It sounds like a funny and sweet film.

The contest is asking participants to answer, “What Does Home Mean to You?” I think when I was younger, I would’ve answered somewhere close to my mom. She made me feel special, safe, and loved. What could be better. Now, my answer has changed a bit because my life has taken many turns: my mom passed away 14 years ago, I’ve moved several times, I’m a mom of a 12-year old, and I remarried 6 years ago.

Home isn’t a particular house or a lifestyle, though I’ve called many places “home” for those reasons. Home is a place where I have freedom to be myself and to be surrounded by people I love and who love me.

Right now, my home is with my husband and son, and we truly enjoy spending time with one another.  We accept each other’s foibles because no one should be a cookie cutter person. We cheer each other’s successes and soothe the temporary losses.

Our house is filled with lots of hugs, laughter, and love. That’s home to me.

If you want to enter the contest, visit Twittermoms Away We Go Contest. I can’t wait to read everyone’s responses and see the movie (it’s out now in select cities; June 25th for nationwide release).

For my family, Memorial Day has always meant family get-togethers and big barbecues. Occasionally, we’d attend a local parade. Memorial Day also signaled the end of the school year. It was a casual holiday that brought some welcomed relief from school projects and job stress.

Of course, the real reason for Memorial Day is far more meaningful than family picnics. Memorial Day is a day to remember our fallen veterans for their service to our country. The holiday brings feelings of pride in our nation and a sense of debt and gratitude to those who sacrifice their lives for our country. While my family doesn’t usually attend formal memorial events, we strongly feel military men and women deserve to be honored – their personal sacrifice and dedication is beyond what most of us are willing to do.

I hadn’t made a Memorial Day lens, but I searched for lenses that I thought brought all the aspects of the holiday together. Here are some outstanding lenses on Memorial Day.

For those of you who are planning family get-togethers, visit Everything You Need for the Best Memorial Day Barbecue Menu. It really does include everything you could possibly need for the best barbecue.

If you’d like ideas on how to remember our fallen soldiers, read Remembering on Memorial Day. This is an excellent lens, packed full of information, like The National Moment of Rememberance, the history of the buddy poppy, teaching children about Memorial Day, and the National Memorial Day Concert.

Memorial Day – Decoration Day describes the history of the poppy, including the poignant In Flanders Fields poem, 21-gun salute video, and links for more resources, such as Memorial Day printables.

To understand the meaning of Memorial Day, visit Memorial Day Military Tribute.  The lens honors our fallen soldiers, with videos on the meaning behind the day, a Memorial Day prayer, and “Amazing Grace”, sung by Judy Collins and the Harlem Boys’ Choir.

No matter how you celebrate Memorial Day, please take time to remember our brave soldiers who fought for our country. Considering their sacrifice, it is the very least we can do.

It seems like Mother’s Day sneaks up on me every year. It’s almost here again – Mother’s Day is May 10, 2009. I’m not sure why it surprises me. Maybe I’m busy with writing, taking care of the family, and other things. I don’t stop to think about it. Besides, those other people in my family (like my hubby and son) should be thinking about it, right?

When my son was old enough to realize moms had their own special day, he couldn’t wait to give me a treasure he had made himself. Even though he doesn’t make gifts in school now, he’s still excited about doing something special for me. My son’s joy is contagious, and Mother’s Day is special no matter what he does.

Mother’s Day is a day of both celebration and remembrance for me. While I’ll enjoy the day with my family, I also take part of the day to remember my mom, who died over 13 years ago.

I remember the first Mother’s Day holidays without my mom. It was very difficult emotionally. How do you celebrate a holiday when the honoree isn’t there? A couple years ago, those feelings led to a lens on How To Celebrate Mother’s Day When Your Mom is Deceased. I poured a lot of my thoughts and feelings to create and update the lens, and in doing so, I’ve enjoyed a different connection with my mom. I’ve updated it and added a personal story I had remembered recently.

If it’s your first Mother’s Day without your mom, visit and find resources on grieving, healing, making remembrance gifts, and more. I hope you find it helpful for yourself, children or grandchildren, or friends who have lost their mothers.

I had created another Mother’s Day lens, Perfect Mother’s Day Gifts – Unique Mother’s Day Gifts.  I enjoy finding unusual gifts, like poetry and personalized gifts.  This is a fun lens, with kid projects to make on Mother’s Day, poetry books for your wife, books to share with kids, and personalized gifts, like M&M candy gifts. Stop by and share your favorite gift-giving on my link list.

Hope everyone has a wonderful Mother’s Day!